When you realize that being the nice guy is rooted in fear of rejection as well as having been conditioned to believe that my value depends on how much I can do for anyone around me. I naturally want to help people around me after a particular experience I no longer overextend myself to where it's detrimental to my mental/physical/emotional health. I am kind. I am caring. I am not a doormat or emotional punching bag for rent lol 💙 (Speaking from my own unique experience and only for myself)

Your initial comment was fine, my reply was to your secondary one. And not offended, more surprised as the phrasing seems you like don't believe this happens.