Trauma bonding doesn’t mean my trauma & ur trauma dovetail perfectly. Trauma bonding is an unhealthy attachment formed through a pattern of alternating abuse (physical, emotional, or sexual) & positive behaviors (apologies, affection, or gifts) which reinforces a dynamic where the person being abused is stuck in a “hoping for change” mode that keeps them attached to the person who’s abusive. This cycle of alternating abuse & kindness literally changes ur brain chemistry. 🧵/1 Trauma bonding