100% when u take accountability and learn what that looks like, then not only will u heal that, but it’ll change ur mindset. Trust me. I yelled at a monk for consistently saying to me: he didn’t make u insecure. No1 can make u anything. If he said the same thing to me, I wouldn’t think abt it a sec later. Why? For every feeling I had, he’d dispute it & ask me what part I played. It took me a while to get it, but I did & I became so much happier & better