What would you do if this was your biological child? You don’t get to decide not to be a parent just because it’s hard.

If it was your bio child would you act the same? You are her parents, step up. There’s plenty of resources

this is exactly why adoption needs to be so heavily reformed. you should have never ever been able to adopt a child. you deserve to lose your job if you cannot take proper care of the children you have been purchasing.

Child psychiatrist is needed and must be on meds. Admit to hospital until find right med combo

Do you even love this child. It breaks my heart to imagine a child that is unwell was put in someone house who has this kind of attitude. But you talk about Christ a lot. Where is your Christian love ? You should seriously reconsider your ability to parent. People treat animals with more compassion.

Residential facility. It was the best decision we made.

This sounds complex and not really an internet topic because most won’t have the background or info to have a real conversation. That being said- mental health needs major evaluation because there are some conditions parenting isn’t going to fix. Things you NEED licensed professionals to handle. Reporting the threats and things is a start, asking for more resources- and he a nuissance about it - from child services, therapists- mandatory reporters by the way- others who can and will report etc

You admit her to the psych ward. You’re the adult. You adopted her. You pay those bills. You do what you have to do. You put her on medication. You do this one day at a time.

So I’m a pretty logic based person. I grew up on tough love and didn’t get away with NUTHIN! I tell you😂 perhaps the answer for this child is some good old fashioned hard work? Maybe look into a farm or ranch that doesn’t take a whole lot of BS and they can give her something to value? Something to lose? Because I know how my grandparents handled these kinds of kids that would show up on their ranch and when they got done they were entirely different kids

Option 3: Take them in for a medical/mental evaluation and see if she might need medication or placed in a facility for a while. That's what parents do.