My first I tore to 3rd degree and had stitches and be packed w gauze for 12 hrs. I didn’t have sex until 12 weeks and then after that one time it was another 5. This time I had a c section. I waited until after my 6 week appointment. But haven’t since then. Having 2 under 2 is draining. Love them and wouldn’t trade it but I just don’t have time to think about sex