Maybe we should redefine the meaning of achievement in life.

When we tie achievements to academics, it’s not healthy to the child’s psyche in the long run. Singapore da nampak bende ni & our education is tryyyyiiinnggg sooo hard to not attach achievements simply with academics.. So we are going towards more holistic approach.. Some schools da buat, some belom.. Still a long way to go la sbb masih ramai parents yg masih ada mentality like yours (not that it’s a bad evil thing, but with awareness, you’re starting somewhere!)

Adik akan tunjuk achievements bila dia dah besar. Mungkin dia yang akan jaga ibu bila dewasa 🫶🏻

My parents used to compare me with my kakak. She always dapat straight A’s in whatever exam she sits for. I pula biasanya near miss. Satu ayat yg i ingat sampai sekarang “nak banding korang dua, kakak la yang lagi pandai”, i cried masatu tapi i buat2 ok. Tapi now, i final year degree. My kakak dah kahwin and ada dip. I tak benci pun, cuma masatu i dissapointed dgn my mum.

I’m not a parent, tapi kalau boleh i tahu, anak2 u umur berapa?

I hv 4 siblings n semua (kecuali I) mmg always score straight A’s in most exams,msuk boarding school semua. My parents pun sama mcm you bg hadiah based on achvmnts n i jarang dpt as paling x pandai but my parents tak prnh give up dgn i. Now at the age of 33 im earning the most (5 digits nett salary) among all n im striving alhmdulllh. my points is alwys encourage the less smart kids cz u never know nanti dia yg akan byk snngkn u.typing this while in a trip overseas w my parents all paid by me ❤️

My experience as a mom of 5. Good achievement in academic is second but character/ behaviour is always the first. Make sure the children behave well and have good knowledge of Islam. Later the academic comes hand in hand. 3 already graduate ,1 in final year another one in Form 6. Alhamdulillah Spm some have straight A+ Some score average but Sahsiah Alhamdulillah. Proud of them all.

anak i empat. i layan sama rata. i nak bg hadiah tanpa syarat

1 thing I learned from sekolah anak2 dulu (Adni).. hujung tahun setiap student dapat anugerah.. . Tak semestinya akademik. Ada seni, sukan, sahsiah dan adab.. leadership.. etc.. It really brings home the message that semua orang ada kekuatan sendiri. everyone excel in something. Dan kita fokus pada kekuatan masing2..

It’s quite sad that u make them compete for your affection 🥲 in the long run anak u akan resent you. Maybe shes good in other areas