The problem is that Christians have been trying to “help” people avoid sexual sin by demonizing the natural God given responses we all have regarding physical intimacy. To be fair, the world has shown us so much that we shouldn’t be seeing in movies, songs, art, books, etc. that the church felt they had to do something drastic to keep people from indulging. It was wrong then and it’s wrong now. We have thoughts from seeing other people that we wouldn’t have had otherwise.