Phew. I struggle here … I am currently dating someone since 3 months and he says I am not giving enough time and energy and commitment to become his primary partner (for open relationship). He says I first need to heal and develop some traits I don’t have yet and need for a long relationship. I agree, I struggle with committing and being open to receive. Other hand it gives me the feeling of not being chosen for who I am but kept for potential. That does not feel good and I feel I chase him