All I’m saying is people who start in love then marry then have a family doesn’t guarantee that to stay that way. Would I love that for myself of course, but a lot of adults in my generation and even before then are from marriages that got divorced and were raised in house holds of marital fights and bashing of the other parent. Why not just having a mutual respect and friendship with the person you made out of love, for the sake of the child. It’s easier for everyone this way.