“Why didn’t you leave?”
“Didn’t you notice before?”
“Why did you leave?”
“You’re lying”
“You could have adjusted. Every relationship has problems”
“You shouldn’t have stayed so long”
“You must’ve done something to exasperate him”
“You should’ve chosen better”
Doomed if you do. Doomed if you don’t. I think as women/ humans we need to learn to hold space for each other. When I left a total of THREE people asked me “are you happy. That’s what matters”. I had TWO people who believed in me.