We dealt with a lot of loss this year and ever since then my 3yo has been very morbid in her play. Everyone is always “passing away”. Her Barbies. Her dolls. Her stuffies. If we play hair dresser, she puts a thousand butterfly clips on my head and tells me how her husband “passed away”. If she tells me a bedtime story, it’s about a fairy who “passes away”. I brought it up to her pediatrician, who said it was a natural way for her to process grief, and to let it run its course. (1/2)

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25 分鐘內	Chantry Ann godzuga	My great-grandma died at age 97 and my then 5 year old got it into his head that everyone died at that age and the absolute parental ✨horror✨ when he would meet new people, ask them their age, do some mental math and then tell them how long they have left to live 😭
一小時內	brookethepodcaster	My friend’s son was told that his dog went to heaven when the dog died. Several weeks later he asked if they could go to Kevin’s to get the dog back - his mom was confused. The poor guy heard “he went to Kevin’s” instead of Heaven.
一小時內	Kathy Scott Brantley rocketgir1	We’ve got two daughters, the first of whom was stillborn. This led to LOTS of questions from our rainbow ;) Eventually, thanks to Reddit, I bought a couple of books: “when dinosaurs die: a guide to understanding death”, which basically talks about how when you die, you stop breathing and your heart stops beating, and “Someone Came Before You”, which tells the story about a family in our situation. Those really helped! And eventually, DD finally stopped asking, “Why did Annie die?”
2 小時內	Emily emily_modo	This is exactly why they say not to use euphemisms when discussing death with kids. It's great that she's processing through play, and great that you used definitive language with her!
2 小時內	Charlie Haward charliehaward	My 4 year old has known 2 people who have died and our dog was PTS last Christmas. She went through a phase of telling me she could see them under the ground - always in the same place on our way to her nursery. Her soft toys also “sadly died” and were put in a cupboard. Just her way of processing things…
2 小時內	Eli de Angeli eli_de_angeli	She probably assumed it was synonymous with “went away” or “left”
3 小時內	🐝 the_becklan_t	My 7yo got a little confused on día de los muertos. He first asked if all his dead relatives were going to come back to life. Then he asked if all his living relatives were going to die on that day. The holiday can be confusing, I get it, but it was so funny.
4 小時內	Tiana Lai Meng tianalaimeng	I think it’s probably good that she’s expressing these feelings openly in play. It’s probably also good that it’s making a regular appearance in play. Means she understands that it’s something that just happens to people and she’s not scared or anxious about it.
4 小時內	Nicole Ruiz biscuits.babies.barbells	My grandma passing away a few months before our girl turned 4 prompted a lot of talks about death. One day she cried because she doesn't want me to get old and die. She's 5 1/2 now and the other day asked me if I was going to be around when she died.
7 小時內	Michelle Taillard michelle_taillard	I was 6 when my grandpa died. Unfortunately I was there for the whole thing up to his last breath and it was a very long suffering, not a pretty death. So I didn't get to hold on to any illusions about death. For years I thought every death looked like that. My parents didn't know how traumatized I was by it until I was a teenager and developed severe depression due to years of anxiety about death.