Or people who have never experienced abuse and can't imagine ever putting up with anything like that (I am NOT one of these peeps) They don't understand that the abuse that led to the leaving isn't the level of abuse they started with. - It's like Yeah if he punched me in the face repeatedly on the 1st date No one would put up with that but that's not how it usually goes -It's a trickle & they condition you. Those ignorant abt abuse can't/won't grasp that. They don't belive victims.