“This is exactly why I have to go to therapy”

I’m sorry. Do you feel up to explaining it? If not I just wouldn’t mention it.

To have peace you likely have to accept that they are in denial. It’s very hard for parents of the previous generation to admit they lacked in any way. There wasn’t the focus on being a good parent beyond providing materially and not beating your children. It was a low bar. It seems you were talking about yourself and she immediately took it personally like it was a judgement on her parenting. Doesn’t seem she will accept accountability.

I have been going through therapy because of past trauma and ptsd alot of things have happened in my life and I told a friend I was in therapy and they just laughed and said why that fucks you up more! My reaction well you don't know what I went through so take a walk if you can't support me, your mom thinks she raised you right and she still may have however mental and emotional and physical trauma can affect a person's life therfor needs therapy to get better you don't owe them anything!