My husband makes plans without consult for the both of us. I love surprises though, not many people do. If I know about it ahead of time I overthink or get extreme anxiety to the point I will cancel it and then be depressed. He has access to my work and home schedule as well as our kids schedules if we need a sitter. A lot of people find it weird but he’s my bff so 🤷🏽‍♀️