Try not to think about being a brother. try focusing on understanding your feelings. sometimes, self resent(caused by irresponsible parents placing adult responsibilities on childrens shoulders) makes older siblings not have ability or time or space to breath or find silence. It makes you less sensitive to women and "victim blame" them. Its your parents being irresponsible and not bettering them selves before starting a family, that did this..So its your parents fault for her tears.