friend was told prior to coming (she’s never been to my house) that my baby is loud and plays all day. She’s on break from school as well. Well apparently, my kid was becoming overwhelming for her and she kept asking her to be quiet and go upstairs. I could hear her from my office. I gently remind her that Naija will not stay upstairs for 9 hours quiet. It’s not happening. She seems to understand but I’m hearing her unravel as the day progresses. By the time we’re both finished with work, she

…if the baby was being THAT bad (doubt it, truly doubt it) I would have holed up somewhere else. Bathroom office FTW. If the baby can go upstairs, so can she? Am I missing something? Is ‘running around the house like a banshee’ LITERAL and she’s screaming at the top of her lungs? Trying to suck out souls and burst ear drums? Was the baby smacking her or the laptop? Did you switch halfway through the story and the 26 yo became the baby? The audacity and idiocy 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

Not sure how old you are but I can only assume you’ve been a mother majority of your adult life. Folks are not use to children you don’t realize how nerve wrecking everyday children’s behavior can be for young adults without child interactions. Give grace and have a convo from empathy and understanding. Sounds like you want to punch the girl.

That’s crazy. She is a guest, your daughter is just being a normal kid and lives there. If she doesn’t like it she can leave.

It wouldn’t be the end of the world to teach the 5yo how to behave when house guests are in your home. Being a little more quiet, bringing awareness of others, that the world doesn’t revolve around them isn’t the worst thing to impose on a child for a few days.

Sounds like once they all leave, you have a conversation with your 21yo and let her know that her guests do not have free rein of the house, especially not the communal dining room table.

I can’t understand why if your daughter’s friend had work to do, she didn’t return home the week after Christmas. If she lives in on campus housing and the campus was closed over break, that might make sense, except, if that’s the case, where is her permanent residence? I would return there if I had paid work responsibilities

1. She might be on the spectrum or ADHD or other. 2. She is a guest in YOUR HOUSE. 3. She needs to put everything away and not leave it out as if she lives there. She is a GUEST in your house. 4. She has no home training. 5. She is a GUEST IN YOUR HOUSE! 6. I beg your FINEST PARDON!?

not sure what ur looking for here. reading responses u don’t seem open to opinions of others that don’t align with what u already believe/feel. With that being said as a mom of a 6 year old with energy that is “well behaved” kids r overwhelming. So a younger person without kids/not used to them now in a situation with a kid 24/7 with energy could def be overwhelming and she may not have known what she was signing up for. Add on any personal issues (anxiety, stress, autism) it can be a shit show

I admire you. You handled this a lot better than I would have. She would have been gone that day. (And this is coming from the mother of a 25 and 14 year old) She should have chosen somewhere else to stay if she is not used to children. That baby lives there, she does not.