My partner's love language is definitely physical touch. Mine is not. I enjoy physical touch but didn't receive it a lot as a child and therefor don't prioritize it. When he is struggling mentally he actually withdraws physical touch and in my head I thought he just didn't want it. I literally just realized the other day that when he does that I have to offer it. His anxiety won't let him ask for what he truly needs. We've been together almost 8 years and I only realized this last week.