Had to sit my 84 yr old mother down and explain that she cannot expect me there 24/7 and that neither of us had ever done this b4. Previously when my g parents passed, she had either her siblings or my dad and his siblings. Its just us now and I can't do it all AND work full time. Luckily in UK and my mum had a good retirement pot and lives in an assisted living flat. Can't imagine if she lived with me or we had money issues!