Word. I don’t need more time alone. I was alone in my marriage. I was alone in my separation. I am alone in widowhood. How can I heal from the trauma of being alone and lonely while still existing in compounded loneliness. Please stop telling lonely people they need to learn to love themselves. I do, and I was under the impression that I deserved someone to love and to love me in return. Imagine that, being traumatized and still being worthy of love?