If a man’s mother took the abuse and the neglect of her husband, if she stayed when he cheated and never talked about it, if she suffered quietly then guess what? He will 9/10 think it’s okay to abuse his wife, he will think a woman is supposed to be okay being neglected and he will EXPECT to be forgiven after he cheats and expect her to suffer in silence. He watched his father give excuses and cry when he cheated and watched his mother take him back. He learnt it from his MOTHER not his father.