This is a hard post to read, bc i also have ADHD, and a mother who didn't recognize it. She thought I was lazy or forgetful, and didn't understand why I could do tasks immediately, like taking out the trash. I know it needs to be done, and I will get there, just not at this moment. Her impatience turned into frustration. You're not doing anything wrong... we're just wired differently. What I did was send my mom ig posts on adhd. Initally she was confused but bc if my persistence she got it.