So like many things, the decision to become curious didn't make it immediately so. It has taken a TON of practice, a willingness to laugh/ have levity about things when I fall into old patterns, and a LOT of learning and work on my nervous system. Which is such a buzzword these days with so many superficial tools - I can't recommend Irene Lyon's content more highly. Very scientific but exactly what I needed. Her website has a free 3 part trauma healing series and an e-book about the stages.