Coffee dates aren’t dates to YOU If that’s your opinion on your own dating life that’s fine, but stating your feelings as a hard rule for everyone is pretty egotistical I’m sure there are plenty of women who would enjoy a coffee date with a guy they are interested in. It’s has some inherent benefits. It’s low pressure, it’s public and it facilitates conversation If someone I was interested in saw my time and attention as low effort and tacky well I probably wouldn’t be that interested anymore