Bras and panties are two separate things though and neither are truly needed just as men's underwear aren't. They're preferred and it makes sense to pay for preferences. Condoms aren't free? They're actually pretty expensive. Anywhere between $.50-$8 per condom depending on what you need compared to tampons at around $.16 per tampon on average. Should they be less? Absolutely but not free. Someone has to pay the people making them. And your last point is a given. Everyone should feel safe