I've been a mother for 20 years, a wife for 16 years, and a foster mom for 10 years. I haven't always put myself first, second, or even third. . . I was usually not on the list at all as I didn't even feel complete unless I put others above myself. I have stopped doing that because as the saying goes you can't pour from an empty cup. I went from 350 something lbs and I'm down over 100 lbs, I spent time working on my education, my mental health, and my goals in life. Remember you matter too !!!