People always talk about love languages. I need to know more, have to know it all. How you handle sad, angry and excited matters. How you like to accept and give apologies matter. How you handle your anger matters. How you want to be consoled when you're sad matters. You will have to realize how people carry and move thru their emotions, & esp how they fix them, are just learned behaviors usually. They will always default on how they have been managing them, until they feel safe with you.