For me, betrayal was worse than my cancer diagnosis and treatment (and that was horrible). But for someone else, cancer may be the biggest trauma in their life. If I then made a statement that said “well as least you didn’t experience this…” that would be cruel! Just because someone hasn’t experience the SAME pain as you doesn’t mean anything. And YOUR pain doesn’t make you better than anyone else. Everyone’s personal pain is valid and needs to be cared for. Let’s have compassion for each other!