Well I’ll tell you this and this is cause I have a big family boys tend to be mommy’s baby until he’s aboit 12 girls tend to their dad cause of that daddy daughter relationship don’t punish his daughter because also the son is still young that’s what the relationship isn’t there yet and also you aren’t married anymore sometimes I feel like y’all think about things to much in time the boy will seek for his father cuz then u going to be complain when both kids don’t want to be at your house anymor