Many of us have internalized an either/or framework in relationships, “Either I’m kind to them or I’m kind to me, either I’m honest with them or I’m honest with me.” It IS possible to be kind to the person you’re communicating with AND yourself by being direct. You offer them kindness by giving them clarity. You offer yourself kindness by honoring your truth. Affirmation: Honesty is kindness. Directness is kindness. Thanking Cenetta for this reflection.