Depending on age they may not have time to do every little thing, plus don't want to be taken advantage of or used as a atm, alot of women have admitted to going out with random guys to get free stuff, free food, so if you want a good man then you gonna have to show interest and flirt and openly talk about what's on your mind. You want to be a stay at home mom like the old days and that's great but sometimes both haft to work to have things, to do things, states are different and can live likeit