In rushing to “fix it”, you risk causing your partners to feel sadness or frustration that they may have been unheard by you, that they’re a problem you’re trying to solve, that you’re rushing them through their process, or that their feelings are a nuisance to you. All of these are likely effects you aren’t trying to have. Instead, pause, get present with them, and take a moment to witness the gift that is their vulnerability. Hold the tenderness for a bit and then move from the held place.