And no, i am not enabling him. Most of you dont understand the dynamic of a healthcare mom who is rarely home and highly dependent on a good father to the kids. Its rare to find a partner who can actually be present to the kids and take care of the kids a-z even weeks long. What he did is wrong. I am not enabling any of them. I am not stupid and stop calling me that, i have taken so many measures throughout this marriage and now is mustering up my courage to try and take my next step ahead.