Avoidants don't lose you the way you lose them. That's why it feels so one-sided. You grieve in real-time, feeling every ounce of the loss. They disconnect, suppress, and move on— quickly. Not because they never cared, but because facing emotions feels unbearable. Their grief is delayed, creeping in when the silence gets too loud-long after you've put yourself back together. That's why you never get the closure you seek. They aren't processing, they're avoiding. But avoidance isn't healing