I want you to know that after so many *dollars , hours and paid for therapies :( I truly understand your sentiments ). It is important that as caring individuals- we don’t take on gaslighting , or narcissistic claims . It’s hard not to show up with care and also not be available for the other untruths which are projected our direction when people we care or have cared deeply about are in despair However, I promise you these things are not ours to own . We can move past them,hugs .