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Make three. You never know what will happen during birth so you need one for all things you want/don't want and call it your ideal plan. And then two more that include what you want to happen in the case of an induction and in the case of a csection. 99% of the time you don't follow a birth plan because you only make one and it doesn't always happen the way you want it to so make 3 just so you know atleast one will be followed x

Don’t have one

My birth plan was for us both to survive. And we did! It went exactly to plan.

The best plan is to be prepared for all possibilities. Be open minded, be mentally resilient and strong. Birth isn’t in your hands. Keep your focus on baby’s and your wellbeing, staying calm and not panicking. You got this!

Make one…read it…burn it. 😂 I had a detailed one and NONE OF IT happened once that first real contraction started. My Dr. said but you said….😂 I lied to myself, give me the drugs NOW. Given my son came out sideways and huge 9 pounds so…

I wrote mine so mindfully and it was so perfect (for me). Then birth came and two years after my only birthplan for second one is "epidural and survival". But in full honesty, I took some additional time in thinking and writing down what are my wishes if anything goes wrong. Not a pleasant think to have, but for me that was more important than anything that was happening if everything is ok.

Develop a birth map instead of a plan. A birth map is like a flow chart of all your possible outcomes and what your choices would be in each scenario.

Train your birtpartner in to asking al the followup questions. Does this neef to happen now? Why do we want to do this? What happens if we wait? They are your gate keepers 🫶