No one knows what they are doing . But it gets easier . Best advice stop worrying so much , so what feels natural and give yourself Grace . The first months are a complete blur & then it starts to get clearer

In Holland we call this ‘kraamtranen’, it is usually around a week after giving birth that all the hormones, soreness, tiredness and the realization that you can never go back on this kicks in. It doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong, that you don’t love your baby enough or you’re a bad mom… it just means you gave birth and the whole experience is f’ing hard!

Does baby have a safe place to sleep and is she eating and getting her diaper changed regularly? If so, then you’re doing everything right.

You’re not failing, sweetie. None of us has it figured out. We just try, and hope for the best. My “baby” turns 18 next weekend, and I’m still just trying and hoping for the best. You got this, but don’t think that the first 6 weeks is anything but survival. And I know you didn’t imply this, but if you feel like you’re going to hurt her, put her down somewhere safe, and walk away. She’ll be ok for a few minutes while you collect yourself