She is kind, thoughtful, and makes me feel so cherished every moment of every day. I am so proud to be married to her. I will not let anyone make me feel like I have to hide who I am or hide this wonderful woman. So, today I chose me. I chose my wife. I chose to remove myself from my emotionally distant parents. And it hurt. I keep crying and a part of me feels guilty, of all things. But a bigger part of me feels proud. I'm proud that I could make the hard choice to take care of me. 🧵 4/5

Proud of you. 💜

Even though we don’t know each other, I can empathize with your anguish. I lost my entire family when they found out that I’m bisexual and especially now that I’m married to my wonderful husband. I’m a firm believer in the concept of found family, and I hope you and your wife are surrounded by family members who love and respect you, whether they’re blood related or not.

It hurts so much when you are forced to make these decisions, but the decision needs to be made and you did very well and you are very strong. ❤️

Rule 9. If the price of admission for your relationship is to give up part of yourself in exchange for their presence, then the price is too high. Rule 14. The family you create is more important than the family you come from. Rule 62. No one wants you to be yourself. They want you to be the version of you that they like. Rule 63. There's a difference between being liked and being valued. Lots of people like you, not many value you. Be valued.

Turn it around and celebrate the fact that you’re together and creating your own memories. Your own traditions. Stop holding on to what your family wants you to be. Babe, consider hay old news and move on. If they don’t want you there in full love and acceptance, fuck em. You’ve got this!

It is a difficult thing to do. I stay in contact with my family bc it is what my deceased mom would want. And because it’s the Christian thing 2 do, which is important 2 me. But I no longer discuss anything political w/family. The 2016 election scared me & then I watched that shite show play out. I’ve realized that since I’ve been censoring myself. Now I feel as if I’m being forced back in the closet! I no longer know who 2 trust. And that really scares me! I have lived who I was for 15 yrs. 1/2

I feel that. I haven’t been home in 15 years for a holiday. I got ‘invited’ this year but told I was not allowed to show any kind of pda with my partner. I asked if they gave that same speech to the straight couples and declined their invitation. I’m much happier spending it at home by myself.

I'm so proud of you, and so sorry you had to make such a hard decision. It's not an easy road to walk, but you can do it. Your wife is by your side, your chosen family have your back, and now you have some internet friends sending you wishes for a joyous time with new and wonderful traditions to celebrate in the future. 🌈

Check in with Free Mom Hugs. We’re an organization that exits just to love you as you are. Our children are not extensions of ourselves but individuals who have the right to live and love as they choose. It takes some parents awhile to get there, and some never do. Here’s a mom hug just for you. Congratulations on your wedding.