I’m a server at a restaurant on the weekends & I’ve started doing this thing where I make “subtle digs” towards old white men at tables. but I’ve come to notice that it dually empowers the women at the table. last night for example: a woman wanted to pay instead of her husband & he kept trying to hand me his card while she was. I was like, “I’m sorry, I always defer to the woman in any situation” then took her card. she looked him right in the eyes & said “that’s right! she’s smart. she knows.”