And did that inspire any sort of change? And if it did what was the cycle of acknowledgement, denial, acceptance, thought rehab to actual changed behavior? Writing a thought piece on this and was wondering if there’s ever a look in the mirror moment where u say, ‘yeah look, we aren’t who we think we are….and maybe we can sort ourselves out’ moment?

I’m still nice, but I went to therapy after I wrecked myself trying to stay in a bad relationship. Learned to identify codependent thought processes, set boundaries and leave situations that aren’t a fit, rather than just accommodating. Later discovered trauma work and began dealing directly with childhood wounds. That has been a complete game changer. Once you truly believe you are likeable and worthy, bending over backwards to please someone and earn their affection just feels beneath you.