🧵 A divorce coaching client of mine once told me, "I wasn't a victim of physical violence." About 4 sentences later, she's describing how, on car trips, her ex would dangerously swerve the car back and forth if she annoyed him. That's physical violence. Another client said, "My ex just emotionally abused me". First of all, there is no JUST here. Emotional abuse is damaging. But then she tops it, a few minutes later, by showing me a Google doc created after she and her ex reconciled once