The goal is to frighten and shut down the expression of your experience so absolutely abuse

Exactly, I wish narcissistic abusers were obvious but they’re not. They are often intelligent, successful beings that pick a target to abuse. They may have a few signs to the the outer world of, “extreme behaviors” but that is often reasoned away. Or they know when to turn on the charm to get the positive attention they want from others. To just use that as fuel to make you doubt what you’re feelings. Those who have not lived it have no idea of the painful long term trauma it creates.

I wish divorce court didn’t fall for the lies. They, too, get manipulated and snowed. But, the lawyers and judges don’t care at all! The spouse trying to get out of the toxic relationship continues to get abused.

Great info! Would like to read more on negative partner retention strategies; negging, belittling, devaluation of labor, lack of recognition and controlling tactics. Purpose; to break down a womans selfesteem so she will do more unpaid labour for the man's validation and won't believe she can do better then him or doesn't deserve a better partner. Also explain codependency, anxious attachment styles and ptsd after domestic abuse,traits in women that attract abusive males.

Thank you.

It’s also about the difference in physical size.