The solution is to see sex as something that’s delicate and not as something “bad”.

Changing wording with this phrase would help. “Staying pure until marriage” implies you’re not pure after marriage, but God created sex to be wonderful and it is absolutely pure in marriage. The Bible makes that pretty clear.

Chiiillleee! If people really understood marriage they wouldn’t be so ready to get married. You are no longer your own, you are now one. Heavy on the spiritual discernment when it comes to how to move in this covenant.

This is VERY interesting to me! I would love to hear from those out there that preserved their body for marriage and what their experience was that first night after “I do”. Ain’t no way butterflies and anxiousness isn’t through the roof

Highly recommend the work of Sheila Wray Gregoire for anyone feeling this way. There are so many damaging messages about this in the church but there are ways to heal (and ways to not perpetuate that harm).

The problem is that Christians have been trying to “help” people avoid sexual sin by demonizing the natural God given responses we all have regarding physical intimacy. To be fair, the world has shown us so much that we shouldn’t be seeing in movies, songs, art, books, etc. that the church felt they had to do something drastic to keep people from indulging. It was wrong then and it’s wrong now. We have thoughts from seeing other people that we wouldn’t have had otherwise.

The truth is that our bodies are made for sex and that God provided parameters as to whom we could indulge with (see Leviticus and Deutoronmy) and the appropriate circumstances (within a marriage). The church worried about our every thought and exposure leaving us to believe that everything we saw, heard, etc. was wrong. Instead, they should have been saying, this (intimate scene from any show/movie) would have been okay if the couple were married as the marriage bed is undefiled.

Impure thoughts is more than just sexual. It’s objectification of any kind. God is concerned with how we view and treat people. To have sexually impure thoughts is to ignore the personhood and only consider sexual pleasure. To have morally impure thoughts is to ignore the personhood and only consider what that person can do/be for you. It’s using people. You won’t have to do a 180 because you would already be treating your husband the way God wants you to. Intimacy isn’t just physical.

Don’t feel guilty for being horny for your spouse or for thinking about physical intimacy. Self-control is a fruit of the Spirit. You’re not a sex addict, 😂. Meanwhile, there’s a whole book of the Bible celebrating physical attraction and intimacy. Be concerned for your spouse’s pleasure. God cared about it and marriage was the safe space He created for us to access it. Just leave everything the “world” taught us about it and you should be okay. The world will have us curious and unsatisfied.

That’s what I fear in marriage…my first time, I’m so scared😭😭😭what if something goes wrong