This was certainly my experience when leaving an abusive relationship - the people most scathing were the ones in unhappy/abusive relationships themselves

It’s hard to admit that to yourself when everyone around you keeps telling you it’s normal and “all relationships have ups and downs”

And that makes me mad. Even though I wasn't ready to be out I was so happy for everyone else that made it out.

Or people who have never experienced abuse and can't imagine ever putting up with anything like that (I am NOT one of these peeps) They don't understand that the abuse that led to the leaving isn't the level of abuse they started with. - It's like Yeah if he punched me in the face repeatedly on the 1st date No one would put up with that but that's not how it usually goes -It's a trickle & they condition you. Those ignorant abt abuse can't/won't grasp that. They don't belive victims.