- Her actions or lack of actions are not a reflection of my worth especially as a child. I deserved to be loved and protected.

I hit 7 years in March. I agree with all the things you stated. My parents continue to push the boundaries though. I received a Christmas gift from them this year after they googled me to find my address that I’ve worked 3.5 years to hide from them. 🙄

Amen!

I feel every word of this. Thank you for expressing your most vulnerable self 💜

Thank you for this 🤍 am transitioning through the self forgiveness of having to step away from a mother who isn’t ready for the doorways opening to her healing. Continuing to be gentle with myself as I provide maternal care and love from within ✨

I needed this today. Especially the part about contributing to toxicity in adulthood

I too have had on and off contact with my mother. It would’ve been completely off but my family contributes to making me feel guilty because i stayed communicating with her as a child and young adult. They felt like everything was ok so why make the decision as an adult. Now she has dementia and the cycle has continued. She needs me. 🤦🏾‍♀️ the no contact has strengthened me so much that her illness isnt making me regret my decision. I have CPTSD from her actions. She is a trigger.

2.5 months for me. I’m gutted but determined.

My wife's son is NC with us because we don't go to his family gatherings because he thought it was OK to get married as his mother's only son without telling her or inviting us to the courthouse wedding but his wife's mother and grandmother were there. His excuse? "I didn't think it would be a big deal" Some of yall are just assholes who can't admit you were wrong.

3 years NC cuz she would rather believe my toxic ex as to marriage implosion(my ex is a narcissist who always saw herself as the victim) instead of my version which is that she was verbally and emotionally abusive to me. My mother was abusive to me as a child and has refused to see how that could have led to my being in a similar position as an adult child of a narcissist. I miss her but am relieved that I don't have to meet her high bar of expectations. She and the ex spend vacations together