I too, am on my wits end dealing with all this but i have yet to come out from it. I too, like everyone is screaming in my face, want to run away. I am here, telling my stories, my circumstances in the hope that i could actually come up to a decision, one that is best for the both of us, the kids. . I am not enabling any of his behavior. But i too, cant deny that he can take care of the kids, on his own, he is immaculate in cleaning the house & even cooks nowadays cause of our financial strains.