Don’t take anything wrong because I’m honestly asking because I want to know and learn from this!! Ok so he put stuff down where it was supposed to be. U asked him more than once to get it, but he didn’t. Yall leave and I assume it’s still there.. You turn around and blame yourself for your kid not doing what you told him to do over and over. Why, how, will that help in the future of being responsible when times gets hard when he has to persevere.

And in 20 years when his wife is saying the same thing

Yes and no. Taking a moment to decompress is one thing. Ignoring it for 2 hours and not getting it done before leaving for karate… does he have to walk a mile to get to your laundry room? Is there some ten step process to putting his stuff away? Not every situation requires this big mental battle. If he can’t listen to a minor request and you’re genuinely concerned then talk to his Dr.